"Suffering is not in the fact, but in your perception of the fact."

"Suffering is not in the fact, but in your perception of the fact."

I read this statement made by Shri Bhagwan, Oneness University. It stated that suffering is just how we perceive it. Its so true. I tried to experience it and understood whatever sufferings we have in our life, its because of how we percieve things, people or situation. We blame others for all the bad events in our life.

Sometimes we hate a person so much we can't stand his or her site. But all this shows all the negative engeries in us. When we hate a person because of one particular attribute in him, we hate that particular attribute in our selves. Suppose you hate a person beause he is a selfish person, that attribute is even hidden under you. And you hate that feeling in you.

So once you work on yourself and clear out the problems within you your sufferings will inevitably end. The main thing is understanding that external sufferings are because of internal sufferings.

What God has made, no power can seperate

"What God has made, no power on Earth can seperate."

Sorry for not being able to blog for these few days, been busy with the weekend stuff and also attended the Pre-Marital course this Friday. During the course learnt a lot about marriage and married life so thought my sharing my experience with you.

The statement that I loved was "What God has made, no power on Earth can seperate." First we were told how Catholic marriages are a covenant rather than a contract between 2 people. Its a sign of togetherness which shows the presence of God in our lives. Then Fr. Rodson showed us a wonderful example of how marriage is a sacrament. He mixed in a glass a little Pepsi and a little Sprite and asked us to seperate it, when we told him that we cannot he said that's what marriage is all about. Its made by God, which no power on Earth can seperate. No matter what, its a union blessed by God. No harm can be done by any evil when you have God by you side.

But just having God by your side doesn't work. You need to add a little effort from your side. The effort will be on how you behave with your spouse. Communication, confrontation and conflict management are the basic steps to let the union going with love.

Managing your vocals, always ending the day with love, communicating with each other all your problems in a way that the other person is not offended, all these help in keeping the union in harmony. When there is a problem, make sure that you have a solution to it and present to the other in such a way that it starts with something good and then you tell your problem with a solution which is a win win situation and end it with something good.

2 golden rules were never go to bed angry and never go to bed hungry. If you go to bed angry you tend to get more adamant and this creates a distance between you and your spouse. So whenever you are angry talk it out, kiss and make up and go to bed. Also never go to bed hungry as food is a providence by God. So what God has given you have no right to let it go to waste. So no matter how angry you are always eat.


Well these have really helped me to improve my current relationship and future married life. Hope it does the same for you'll.

Ciao for now!!

"Let nothing disturb you. Let nothing frighten you. Everything passes away except God."

"Let nothing disturb you. Let nothing frighten you. Everything passes away except God." - Julian of Norwich

A wonderful statement which I received in my Inbox today by Ms. Colleen. How true is it! Everything is this world will pass away. Be it someone you love to bits or someone you hate to the core. A happy moment or a moment which devastated you and broke you into pieces. Everything is illusional. You find it real but the fact is nothing is. Have you ever at times dreamt about something and woke up having a funny feeling of how real it felt. Exactly, thats how life is. Its just a dream and one day you will wake up to find out and realize that all your life the things you had been running behind like love, wealth, happiness, etc are just an illusion of mind. God is the only one who will always be with you.

"And behold, I am with you always, until the end of time." (Matthew 28:20)

This is a promise made by God. If you fear or feel lonely just remember He is with you and will never ever leave your side. When I was young and my mom used to leave me and go out I used to feel lonely but then when I realized God is with me I have never felt so. I know that each and every moment he is watching over me.

If you are in pain or distress, lonely, scared, depressed, lost just have faith in God coz everything will pass away only He will remain like a pillar in your life.

The love of God

Today I was reading atricles on the website http://www.catholic-prayer-life.com/, the author Colleen had mentioned about fear and how in fear, we do not at all trust God.

How true is that, when the time comes to hold God's hand and walk, we just leave it and stand at the edge of the hill. Though we know in our heart that its only God who can help us out and lead us out of the problem. Our mind takes over and though what our heart states, we believe that everything is in our control. We try our level best to do whatever we can to do rectify things and solve all the problems. And when we can't do anything, we surrender ourselves to God.

Why not surrender to him in 1st place. He is the actual driver you are like a new driver learning to drive. Your body is just like a car. You feel you are driving it but in actuality its God who is helping you to drive it and rectifying your mistakes. When you are about to mess up, he takes over.

Whatever happens he is behind it. He has a purpose behind it. It maybe something to fulfil some of your wish. You never know. Maybe he is taking an indirect route to make your dreams come true. Have faith in him and leave all your worries to him. I know its better said than done. The truth is I have learned it the hard way. When the fear comes it clutches your tummy and you feel lightheaded and forget everything about God and worry about future. A future which is never guaranteed that you may see. You cant help keeping your fear aside, even though you know it won't be of any help to you.

My Fiance Shoy lost his job, few months to marriage and we are feeling desperate for getting him a new job. I tried worrying about it, losing my sleep over it, having the fear of what next, how would we manage all the marriage expenses. I tried all possible ways to get him a job, but nothin worked. I got desperate blamed God for not helping me. Still nothing happened. Then I started praying. I felt better and more at peace. I understood its one of his plans. Even though its not clear but I do believe its for my own good. I'm his child and whatever he does its for my own betterment. This I have experienced prior in my life as well. Looking back in time I have cried and tried to find solutions to problems which were not in my hand and latter when I surrendered God took over and set things right.

There nothing bad in God's books. Whatever he does its for good. Its just we need time to realize it and face it. We need to have full faith in God and jump when we have to coz without the fear of falling down. We need to trust that he will be there to catch us and comfort us.